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Basically, I (30F) went on a few dates with a man (35M). When I went back to his place, I asked him to put on a condom and he did but not before going on about how « bad » they feel.
We start having sex and, after he has been inside me, I notice that the condom is no longer on. I ask him about it and he says it must have slipped off. When I ask if he took it off, he emphatically says no. We looked for it in the bed but didn’t find it.
I am now left in a position where I have no way to know whether or not he lied. Prior to the complaint, he has done nothing disrespectful or suspicious so I wonder whether I am being unfair by assuming the worst.
So what should (besides getting tested, obviously) my next steps be?
Edit: It’s definitely not inside me. I assumed it slipped off somewhere in the bed at the time but it’s looking more and more suspicious.
Edit 2: We stopped as soon as I discovered it but it wouldn’t have happened had it not been for me — he acted all surprised and said he didn’t notice it slip off. He also acted disappointed and asked why it was “a big deal” now that he’s already “been inside.” I’m starting to realize that I blocked out a lot of these moments immediately after it happened. In terms of laws, I live in New York.
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