Tag: Assertive
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How do I help my gf become more assertive and thoughtful about sex?
[ad_1] Sex is the one problem in our (both 28) relationship (6yrs) from my perspective. It’s a classic mismatch: I’m the higher libido partner with a lot of fantasies and spontaneous desire vs her being the lower libido partner with vanilla preferences and responsive desire. I’m a pleaser who wants to keep things interesting but…
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How do I be more assertive when making my move with a girl?
[ad_1] I know communication is key in a relationship, especially early on when you’re getting to know each other. I try to be as respectful as possible with consent when I’m dating someone, I don’t even want to hold their hand or go in for a kiss without asking if it is ok. Most women…
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How to become more assertive against coercion and express desires for SA survivors with a “fawn” response
[ad_1] TW Coercion I (28F) am a SA survivor due to years of religious trauma and coercion. I’ve been in many situations were sexual activity has gone further than I wanted despite me verbally saying I did not want to go further and me pulling/pushing away. My response in these situations has been to go…
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Feeling Confused/Guilty after Assertive sex
[ad_1] So, I (m/37) am usually pretty vanilla and not at all assertive in bed. My FWB (f/32) asked me to be less “polite” in bed and “do what I want” to her. So, I did, even though I’m sure 99% of the people on this sub would still find it awfully vanilla. (Mostly just…