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TW: I (W26) recently met someone (M28) on a 1st date, we know each other through acquaintances. I’ve only ever had steady relationships and I’m not the casual type.
We planned to go out for dinner in advance and I should pick him up at his home. He lives in a shared apartment. I thought nothing of it and went up to his place. He briefly showed me the apartment and then his room. I had an oppressive feeling in his room for a moment, but I ignored it, looked at his pictures for a moment and talked to him normally. I still had my sunglasses on & a candy in my mouth, because I thought we’re going to have dinner in a bit.
He then somehow stepped very close behind me, put his arm around me like a vice and kissed me from behind (on the neck). At that moment I was petrified and didn’t know what to do, I couldn’t react. He then turned me around to him, took off the sunglasses, kissed me on the mouth and started to touch me. At some point I went along as if on autopilot as far as I can remember. Thereupon, he pushed me down on his bed with emphasis. I was so perplexed and could only say “But we wanted to go out for dinner”, to which he replied “We can do that later”. I couldn’t react to this, on the one hand my head was swept clean and on the other hand I was completely confused and overwhelmed. So I simply stayed silent. He then immediately continued with kissing and undressing me and himself and had sex with me rather quickly. I somehow went along, although I am sure that I did not want that at all at this point in time.
The whole evening passed me by like a single blur?, I was zero myself, could hardly eat anything later when we went out to eat, had a bad stomach ache the whole evening, a very bad feeling with him in general and then drank too much, which he then exploited again with sex. I could only breathe again when I was then away from him. Afterwards I realized how trapped I was somehow in the situation?
I am now totally unsure what actually happened? Is such behavior normal? I feel terrible, as if something of myself has been taken away from me. Should I confont him about it or just cut off contact? I’m totally messed up to be honest.
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